Big Idea Daily | The Let Them Theory
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A Life-Changing Tool that Millions of People Can't Stop Talking Aboutby Mel Robbins |
“When you’re an adult, your life, happiness, health, healing, social life, friendships, boundaries, needs, and success are all your responsibility."MEL ROBBINS |
BIG IDEA #1
Two Powerful Words
FROM THE BOOK“I felt different. I felt so good, I just had to share Let Them online. So I posted a 60-second video explaining the Let Them Theory on social media.
Here is what I said: If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, Let Them. If the person that you’re really attracted to is not interested in commitment, Let Them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, Let Them. So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match your expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what to do next.
Within 24 hours, more than 15 million people had seen it. Within a week, 60 million, and there were tens of thousands of comments on the video. News outlets started writing articles about the theory and how effective it is. People around the world started flooding my DMs and inbox with questions, stories, and examples of how they were using it. Psychologists and therapists were writing blog posts about it.
I was so blown away by the immediate response, I recorded a podcast episode about the theory and my experience using it. That episode took on a life of its own. It was shared so many times Apple named it the sixth most shared podcast episode of the year, globally.”
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Brian's Notes
LET THEM.
Those are two VERY powerful little words that carry a LOT of WISDOM.
It’s hard to captures the essence of both Stoicism AND Buddhism in two words any better than that.
We’ll talk more about why those two words are so powerful and how to use them in the core areas of your life in a moment.
(Those core areas include: “relationships, career, emotions, opinions, stress, love life, struggles, chronic comparison, friendship, and most importantly, your relationship with yourself.”)
For now, as you know if you follow Mel, she’s a REALLY (!) good story teller.
Here’s the story that launched the Let Them movement:
“‘Mom, if Oakley and his friends want to go to a taco bar for pre-prom, LET THEM.’
‘But it’s too small for all of them to fit in; they’re going to get soaked,’ I said.
‘Mom, LET THEM get soaked.’
‘But his new sneakers are going to get ruined.’
‘LET THEM get ruined.’
‘Kendall, they’re brand new!’
‘MOM! You’re being annoying. LET THEM show up to prom in wet tuxedos and dresses. LET THEM go eat where they want. It’s their prom. Not yours. Just drop it.’
LET. THEM.
The effect was immediate. Something inside me softened. I could feel the tension disappearing, my mind stopped racing, and the stress of trying to control what was happening evaporated. Why did I need to get involved? Why did I have to manage this situation? Why not worry about what I was going to do for dinner tonight, rather than what they were? Why was I stressing about them at all?”
Repeat after me...
Two life-changing words...
LET.
THEM.
P.S. Know this: “Let Them is just the first half of the equation. There is a second, even more crucial step to this theory: Let Me.”
Those are two VERY powerful little words that carry a LOT of WISDOM.
It’s hard to captures the essence of both Stoicism AND Buddhism in two words any better than that.
We’ll talk more about why those two words are so powerful and how to use them in the core areas of your life in a moment.
(Those core areas include: “relationships, career, emotions, opinions, stress, love life, struggles, chronic comparison, friendship, and most importantly, your relationship with yourself.”)
For now, as you know if you follow Mel, she’s a REALLY (!) good story teller.
Here’s the story that launched the Let Them movement:
“‘Mom, if Oakley and his friends want to go to a taco bar for pre-prom, LET THEM.’
‘But it’s too small for all of them to fit in; they’re going to get soaked,’ I said.
‘Mom, LET THEM get soaked.’
‘But his new sneakers are going to get ruined.’
‘LET THEM get ruined.’
‘Kendall, they’re brand new!’
‘MOM! You’re being annoying. LET THEM show up to prom in wet tuxedos and dresses. LET THEM go eat where they want. It’s their prom. Not yours. Just drop it.’
LET. THEM.
The effect was immediate. Something inside me softened. I could feel the tension disappearing, my mind stopped racing, and the stress of trying to control what was happening evaporated. Why did I need to get involved? Why did I have to manage this situation? Why not worry about what I was going to do for dinner tonight, rather than what they were? Why was I stressing about them at all?”
Repeat after me...
Two life-changing words...
LET.
THEM.
P.S. Know this: “Let Them is just the first half of the equation. There is a second, even more crucial step to this theory: Let Me.”
Big Ideas
01: TWO POWERFUL WORDS
02: A TOOL
03: TWO MORE POWERFUL WORDS
04: UNLOCK YOUR POWER
05: A LOVE NOTE
“You’ve been trying to control the uncontrollable, trying to force the world to conform to your expectations. But what if, instead, you focused on your own response to whatever the world was throwing at you?"MEL ROBBINS |
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